Single life can be challenging in many ways, but there are some positive aspects too. It’s always better to be single than in an abusive relationship. I have managed to avoid abusive relationships by noticing the red flags EARLY on (in addition to my commitment phobia😛). It might be the reason I’ve been single almost my entire life, but I’ve also managed to avoid traumatic experiences caused by men thus giving me still a glimpse of hope in dating life. 😀
There are ways to eliminate the douchebags early on without having to call the FBI.😉(Since the local police is totally useless bullies.) Here’s a list of twenty tricks and warning signals that have personally worked for me:
- My simple but effective tactic is to simply not give the man what he wants. I’m not saying it’s 100% rain proof tactic, but so far it has worked for me. The good guys can wait, trust me. Some may argue that there are exceptions who will tactically wait and please until you give them what they want, but most douchebags aren’t willing to wait for months. Psychopaths are a whole different story and I’m not medically trained to write about them. (even though I’ve come across few). A basic douchebag though, a typical dude who shows off his new golf bag, loves his boat shoes and brags about his famous friends won’t however wait. He will sleep with someone who is ten years younger than you and then brag to you what she did that you didn’t do. Busted! 😄 ✌️
- Date a feminist man. A feminist man who respects his mother and understands what you feel and is ready to be flexible and wait for you is the best man you can ever hope for. Just look at Prince Harry. Raised by his sweetheart feminist mother Princess Diana. She was a true classy lady who raised two well behaved and respectful boys.
- Intelligence matters regardless of a man’s upbringing. I don’t mean that if a man is a douchebag it’s his mother’s fault. A society plays a big role too and how emotionally intelligent the man is. For example, if a man has witnessed his own mother get abused by her husband (his father), the man will either mimic the behavior or become a feminist who would never ever harm a woman. Cultural differences of course play a big role, but I grew up in Europe (but was born/ lived in the States too) so referring to my own experiences.
- Date an artist. One thing in common with the sweetest men out there from my experience is their artistic nature. Not cold blooded sales guys or nit picky engineers who find every pimple and stretch mark in your body. DJs, singers, dancers and the sons of artistic mothers. Though I must admit that one of the most horrible men I have ever met was a photographer from Finland. I guess there are exceptions, but generally artsy men have empathy that every woman needs. Also, since I’m an empathetic person, I highly value it.
- Pay attention to passive-aggressive remarks. If he points out a tiny scar on your leg or says your eyebags are horrible or you need a boob job, chances are he will never stop and finds your EVERY pimple, wrinkle, scar, grey hair etc. if you stay with him. So RUN! FAST!
- Notice the microexpressions. I’ve busted racists, liars, bullies, and douchebags by simply paying attention to his microexpressions. For example, disgust, fear and happiness are easy to catch if you pay attention.The funniest part is that they all think I don’t notice and they can fool me. Oh I notice, but sometimes it’s nice to play along to see what the fuck they want from me. 😂😂
- Check how he behaves with other women when you’re with him. If he stares at hot women when you’re sitting next to him, if he calls your friends fat, ugly etc. or brings his hotter female friends to your date. Total douchebag moves. He will end up with a submissive woman who will never say No to anything. 😔
- He starts asking very personal questions very early on or very specific opinions about certain countries or people. Especially if he has a connection to your haters via Facebook, Linkedin, work etc.. there’s something fishy. (He is a snake!🐍) For example, nationalist extremists have asked foreign guys to ask me out on a date to get my opinion about Finland. If I simply say I’ve been bullied here and haven’t found work, these psychos use this against me to claim I’m anti-white and other bullshit these vicious evil people use as a propaganda tool to spread hatred towards foreigners and non-white people. Imagine being so threatened by a random mixed race woman’s presence. Being pathetic AF reached a whole new low. 🤯🤣
- It takes him five hours to reply to a text without an explanation or a week to reply to an email without an apology. The biggest douchebags though are the ones who simply won’t reply at all. 😂 That’s why I have made it a habit to ALWAYS reply to people no matter how I feel about them.
- He talks shit about other races. Even if you are not from another race or mixed race or from the race he talks crap about, he is a total loser. 😂 Racists are losers and only losers want to date other losers.
- He doesn’t introduce you to his friends when you see them. Rude and disrespectful.
- He asks you out on a date but doesn’t pay for you. Maybe he realizes half way through the date that you are not into him and doesn’t want to “waste” money. 😂 DOUCHEBAG. 😂
- He knows you have been continuously bullied by racists and jealous women but simply doesn’t care to come rescue you from another country. Men who enjoy seeing you suffer are not only douchebags but weak sadists. Never forget and never forgive them.
- He trash talks everyone, especially women who do not like him, his exes, his mother, female colleagues etc. A man who finds faults in every single woman is a misogynist. Even if you cater to his every wish he will find something to whine about. RUN!!
- He claims you’re a lesbian and literally tells EVERYONE, hacks your computer to find “proof”, asks women to flirt with you to get “proof” and finally turns all your female friends against you and makes other women treat you like shit to make sure you wouldn’t be “attracted” to them!!!🤯🤯🤣, because you think he is repulsive garbage. Seriously, some adult men are worse than kids and I know the difference because I’ve been a (substitute) teacher. Chances are this dude (fake macho a-hole who hates gays) is actually gay himself because that level of obsession comes from somewhere! I know I dotched a few bullets there. 😂😂
- He manipulates men who were once nice to you to treat you like garbage so he would look better. This simply doesn’t work on smart women. Sorry losers. He also makes your good-looking male FRIENDS disappear because he is so insecure about himself that he doesn’t trust you. 👎🏼
- He destroys your career so you would be less “annoying independent feminist” and be dependent on a man’s money. A DOUCHEBAG misogynist man’s money, because dear fucking lord if a feminist woman tries to find happiness and a man who is NORMAL!! 😆
- He likes alcohol more than you. Partying together when you’re in your 20s is fun, but if the alcohol consumption doesn’t decrease by the age, it’s not worth it. I have for example limited A LOT of my alcohol intake after hitting the 30s. Two glasses of red wine 1-3 times a week is considered even healthy. 🍷
- He treats his pets poorly. One of the first signs of an abusive person is that he disrespects animals. It can be as subtle as not leaving water for his pet for the whole day. Oddly they also come up with weird excuses why his pet doesn’t need water. 😂 I also don’t see the point in hunting (since you can just buy your food from the grocesory stores) other than douchebags getting pleasure in killing innocent animals and watching them die. Evil.
- He HATES cats and doesn’t hide it. 😸 I would never get a pet snake for example, but I also spend zero time in trash talking pet snakes. A douchebag, however, might own a dog or a reptile, but something about cats that makes his blood boil and openly expresses his hatred towards them. You know what it is? It’s the cats stubborn nature. Cats are often called assholes BY assholes.😂😸 Douchebags can’t stand someone or something that doesn’t obey them, cater to their every wish and is independent and non-needy. As we all know, cats simply won’t do shit they do not want to do.😹 Neither do smart independent women who are hated by douchebags. 😉
There’s nothing humorous about abusive relationships, misogyny, bullying and other illegal bullshit women have to deal with almost in daily basis. I hope you enjoyed reading it though and would love to hear your experiences. Send me your comments from the Contact page.✌️💖