When you are job hunting, your mood changes. You become irritable, stressed, your self-esteem decreases and sometimes you can even get depressed. It only gets worse the longer you are unemployed unfortunately. Especially if you don’t have a support network. Family, friends and a partner are the best support network you can have when you don’t have (nice) work colleagues.
Unfortunately, some people simply can’t handle negative emotions. Job hunting can make you bitter and lash out at the wrong people. Some friends will simply lose interest because you don’t have money anymore to go out like you used to or they only like the “fun” you. When the shit gets real, you realize who your true friends are. In my case in Finland, none. You also make the perfect victim for sadistic bullying. Here are some vicious things I’ve experienced since I became officially unemployed (and single) in 2013 in Finland. Bullying makes me blood boil, especially when a whole country gangs up on you when you try to struggle alone, so I use the word fuck a lot on this post. 😂
- The worst thing you can do is to punish your unemployed friend by isolating her, stop inviting her to places and then blame her for being too “boring”.
- Bullying the unemployed friend for her financial struggles is lame. Especially if she is fucking brave enough to be honest about them. A-holes will be a-holes. You also never know when the tables will turn and you’ll be in the same situation, so treat others the way want to be treated.
- Don’t brag about your expensive stuff to your unemployed friend, when you are well aware of her struggles.
- Don’t show off your boyfriend. Nothing wrong in expressing happiness, but to deliberately rub it on someone’s face who’s struggling alone is a dick move. Insecure women do this a lot. 🤣They think random women will steal their boyfriends if they don’t prove to the whole world how “happy” they are. Awww. We all know what’s really going on. The show is getting A BIT old. 🤭
- Stop telling an unemployed person to go to therapy when you’re well aware of she can’t fucking afford it.
- Stop generally giving unsolicited advice. If someone has survived the worst job ever, got rejected from every job application after that and somehow managed to pay her bills, not to mention some family struggles then who the fuck are you to tell her to stop whining and be grateful? 😄 This “be grateful” BS is the most annoying thing randoms tell you.
- People who only see negativity in others are negative themselves. I think I’ve been called a “negative person” by five people in total and they have all been from Finland. Before you go out saying shit like that make sure you understand what is a negative person. A negative person does NOT try to find a job for SEVEN fucking years, move to a new country three times for work just to get fired and then try again in another country, move 10 times to a new apartment after being harassed, deal with racist garbage bullies alone, stay hopeful in dating after getting burned by a million guys, pay all her bills alone, watch her mother’s health deteriorate year by year and yet somehow always help others with a smile on her face. So #STFU!! 😂🤣🤚🏼
- Some women are the biggest snakes. Jealousy, racism whatever the reason. As a mixed race woman I have faced it all. It’s sad to realize that your female friends were actually just trash talking racist/ nazi/ jealous snakes after you supported them and spent time with them when they felt sad and lonely, when their boyfriends cheated on them, employers sexually harassed them and one even got cancer treatments (and I was there to help her.) Just like Meghan Markle, pointing fingers and finding flaws and calling an innocent empathetic person a selfish demanding bad person is a common tactic for racists to use to spread their hateful propaganda and to try to stop “race mixing”. Good luck in trying LOSERS. Do these bitches really think they’ll attract quality men by sabotaging other women?? What I’ve seen, they attract abusive, nit picky even violent men, so have “fun” with your men. 😆🤣😆👍🏼
- My “friends” told all my secrets to my haters, lied about my mental health to make me look like a crazy person (apparently using the word “fuck”‘ is for the mentally ill🤔🤣🤷🏽♀️) and deliberately sabotaged my efforts to leave Finland and actually be happy because they themselves have no fucking clue how to be happy.
- A-hole neighbors whine that you work out in your apartment 30min/ 3 times a week during the fucking day.🤣 But of course they’re allowed to party at 2am!!!🤷🏽♀️
- Some people think it’s funny to rip off your pennies and fuck up your hair and eyebrows DELIBERATELY and make-up and other cosmetics that you paid full price for! There’s no cure for the disability called racism unfortunately. It’s not going to make you prettier by making me uglier. 🖕🏼
- Sabotaged my coffee (and some food too!) with laxatives. 💩 Again only an abnormal brain will do something like this.
- Sabotaged my cats’ food with laxatives and now my fucking cats are paranoid to eat their food. So fuck you.
- A-hole men will try to date you when you are an easy target who needs shelter and food. 🤣 They claim all their exes have been supermodels, but well.. The “love drugs” work on only some women. 🤭 🤣😆They’ll also call you ugly if don’t want to date them (for their money, because obviously if they were confident they would have asked you out when you had a job OR help you get a job and then date you! 😀) What’s the deal with men who don’t take care of their looks AT ALL yet expect to date only hot models?😂 I think if the woman is not blind or on drugs, she will cheat on you. Just saying, if you expect your woman to look hot, you should too.
- Misogyny. Some men think if they hire you, you will sue them for sexual harassment because one paranoid low IQ loser couldn’t keep his fucked up paranoia to himself so he had to ruin my career instead of getting therapy for himself. 😂🙄👎🏼
- Bullies provoked me, couldn’t handle my reaction and then claim I have “bad leadership skills”. Where the fuck is the document that says anything about me wanting to lead anyone/ anything?! Especially YOU?! Like why would I have any interest in becoming the leader of a group of pathetic bullies? 🤣 🤷🏽♀️My career goals do not concern anyone. Funnily, the same people who ruined my career, think I want to now listen to their “career advice”. Fuck no. Bye. 🤣
- Something about Meghan Markle and Prince Harry that triggered the most pathetic shit show ever among some women. 🤣Since they can’t get their hands on Meghan, poor me makes the perfect target for these insecure little bullying psycho bitches. FAIL. 🤣👎🏼
- Some men mock crying because they can’t cry/ feel emotions. They’re DEAD inside. ☠️I would rather cry every day than not be able to enjoy ANYTHING and feel NOTHING, and be so empty inside that I have to cheat on my spouse/ torment random people/ be a general nuisance because someone didn’t get enough attention as a kid. 🤣When kids can’t get attention from their parents, they start misbehaving and try to get attention with negative behavior. Some adults never grow out of this because they simply don’t have the skills to get positive attention. This is how bullies will always exist and climb up the ladder to power positions, making it a neverending vicious cycle of garbage.
- Psycho men will manipulate older women to treat you like garbage, because they’re easy scapegoats instead of the weak psychopath man actually taking responsibility of his horrible personality and taste for sadism and drama. These type of men have also A LOT of issues with older women (mommy issues perhaps?) and that is why they target younger women, but put the blame on older women as “jealousy, cat fight” whatever misogynist BS these weak men can come up with. It might have worked in my case, if I didn’t have so positive experiences with ALL women, my female friends, relatives, colleagues etc. BEFORE I came across a couple of revengeful psychopath men at work. 🤣
- Your struggles bring out the worst in WEAK people. Weak people attack vulnerable people. They will patiently wait for the opportunity to see you in a weak moment literally for YEARS. They’ll also get more encouraged and go ballisticly INSANE if you actually have the balls to tell them to stop fucking bullying you! Especially cheap trash perfume, AC and ILLEGAL drowsy medication (to see how long it will take for me to die in a car crash) seems to be a “fun” thing to torment me with. 🤣👍🏼Then they continue to laugh at you, mock you, isolate you and hope you would just die alone. When they are not there for you for your struggles, don’t expect the friend you abandoned to even spit at your direction when she will be successful again. 🤣💃🏽✈️
Bullying is never ok and just because YOU were bullied and it made your life shit, doesn’t give you the right to pass on your misery to perfectly happy content people like me. So be kind to each other. There are better ways to deal with the traumas of bullying than pass on the misery and force others to experience the cruelties you were forced to experience. I can tell you that nobody gives a flying fuck about you if you FORCE randoms to experience your shitty problems. Better way is to ASK for empathy and understanding, but these type of people don’t unfortunately understand how empathy works and definitely do NOT deserve it. 🤷🏽♀️💖 People might laugh at me for being alone and unemployed, but I laugh at them for being more concerned about my problems than actually enjoy their own lives. Now that IS pathetic.