How to Get Into a Relationship Without Going on a Date?

Dating is complicated and there are too many articles about it and that’s why my blog doesn’t solely focus on dating topics. I write about managing your budget and loneliness when living alone and perhaps you’re also looking for work etc..In any case, most people want to get in to a relationship. The problem is, how to get into a relationship without going on dates when randoms criticize your dating life? πŸ€·πŸ½β€β™€οΈ

This is a problem for both women and men. Women are VERY often branded as “sluts”, “gold diggers” and “easy hoes” if they didn’t marry the first fucking guys who asked them out and paid for their dinner. Guys are branded as “serial daters” or “players” and “wasting money” if they go out with several women. So women are sluts and men waste money on stupid dinners that most often do not even lead to sex. πŸ€£πŸ€·πŸ½β€β™€οΈ (see the misogynist comparison BOTH men and women use, men waste money for a dinner with a woman if the woman doesn’t have sex with him! πŸ™„πŸ˜‘πŸ€―)

So how are we supposed to get into a relationship then? I’ve had discussions about artificial intelligence “dating sites” that can choose the right person for you. Is life really that complicated though? Why do people talk so much crap about singles trying to find a partner? Why are we not allowed to explore the pool? Why settle? I have noticed that the people with the biggest problem with mingling singles are the people who settled (with the wrong person). They are bummed out that they didn’t go on that date with the 5th or 8th interesting person they met but instead settled too early, didn’t have time to explore the world, have sex, and enjoy life because apparently the married/ settled life is not exciting enough for them to keep their fucking mouths shut about mingling singles. 🀣🀣

I have been on a date with several men from different countries, dinner, coffee, tea. Getting to know each other before getting involved in anything serious. Funnily, some people have said I’m a slut/ doing prostitution even though I don’t have sex (or even kiss) the man after having dinner/ coffee/ tea. So what’s the big deal? Some men claim I’m using men for free food. (Yes I wrote that in my other blog post, caught me there.😝) However, the thing is, I NEVER go out with a man who is totally uninteresting to me AND if the man turns out to be a douchebag DURING the date, it’s only fair he will pay for the dinner if HE asked me out in the first place. There’s always something that intrigues me (not necessarily money), but intelligence, anarchy, looks, humor, interesting stories and when you’re past 30 years old, you also tend to value stability A LOT. A man’s lifestyle and values are very important and goes above everything else. You can be rich and hot but a total a-hole when it comes to values. You can also be ugly and poor and still be an a-hole when it comes to treating women right. πŸ˜† (Same goes for women too though.) Anyway, one of my female friends told me a story about a guy who asked her out, offered her 1€ coffee and then when the bill came, made her fucking pay for it! 🀣 Even if you’re a broke student etc., that is incredibly rude. You know you could just meet somewhere else than a cafe. πŸ˜‰πŸ˜†

There are no written rules for who will turn out to be the best one FOR YOU, so you just need to explore the pool the old-fashioned way. If someone tries to mock you for being a mingling single, politely remind them that Hitler was married too and it sure as fuck didn’t make him a better person. πŸ€£πŸ˜…

In case you need help in how to behave on a date, please contact me about my dating guide. They are my real life experiences (good and bad) about dating in my 20-30s. Can be applied to all ages. It’s a PDF and very reasonable price and I can guarantee you that if you follow all my tips, you will get a date. Please contact me on my contact page.β˜ΊοΈπŸ•ΊπŸ»

Going on a dinner date is OK even if it doesn’t lead to anything. Anyone thinking any different is an idiot and should stick to offering 1€ coffee (or make the woman pay for the fucking 1€ coffee 🀣) and be prepared to be alone forever. (Dinner/ lunch like this risotto I was offered by a polite man can be 15-20€ and still be awesome OR a home cooked meal FYI. Read my blog post about 2€ meals under Finances section.) Photo: Sonia Jain

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