Travel with a 100€ ($117) budget to Tallinn

Tallinn city view from Sokos Hotel Viru rooftop, 23rd floor, KGB Museum. Photo: Sonia Jain

Depends where you live, but a quick trip to one of your neighboring countries or states refreshes your mind and makes you happy. In Europe, it’s relatively easy and affordable to visit your neighboring countries. So I decided after a dreadful 2 YEARS 4 MONTHS without a single trip abroad that I’m going to Tallinn, Estonia with a 100€ ($117) budget. I went alone because I don’t have many friends and the ones I have were working. πŸ€“ It was a quick one day trip, left my house at 8.30am in the morning and came back at 11pm.

I think not travelling for almost two and half years blurred my brain and I fell for all of the tourist traps in Tallinn. LOOOL. I was like a countryside person traveling for the first time.πŸ˜‚ Anyhow, here’s how I spent my budget and you can also watch my travel vlogs (links in the end):

  1. 14€ ferry with return. Day trips are cheaper from Helsinki to Tallinn. Book in advance.
  2. 12€ bus/ tram with return to go to the ferry from my apartment.
  3. 2,90€ Coke Zero in a cafe in the ferry. I quit drinking alcohol three months ago.
  4. 15,50€ lunch with tip. I had black truffle risotto with sparking water. I went to one of the most expensive tourist areas because I was a hungry tourist.🀣 Another tourist trap, because you can find much cheaper places if you search a little. Though I really loved the food, service and interior design of Rado restoran. Even the bathroom was like an art gallery! You can check my Instagram for pictures.
  5. 5,60€ coffee and cake in a cute little cafe, Saiakangi kohvik. Also in the Old Town tourist area, but very relaxed and peaceful atmosphere. Nobody stares at you even as a brown woman!! πŸ˜‚
  6. 5,50€ vegan wrap take away dinner. After my coffee and cake, I realised I don’t have much time to sit down for dinner before my ferry left, so I just decided on the quick and easy option and ate my vegan take away wrap in the ferry. I found a nice public sitting area with tables and a window view.
  7. 10€ bike taxi. It’s a tourist trap! The price depends where you go, but going to the Old Town can be up to 25€ for two people. Solo travelers don’t have boyfriends to pay for their travel costs, but we do have the advantage of negotiation skills.πŸ˜ƒ By the way, you can walk to the Old Town from the harbour in 15-20min.
  8. 12€ KGB museum at Sokos Viru Hotel. It’s a tourist trap! Even though you get a guided tour for one hour, the museum itself is very small, only one room, lobby and two rooftop balconies that are worth the view though. You also get a soft drink for 1€ from the hotel lobby. If you’re tight with time and money, skip this one. The tour guide was very funny though, so if you feel lonely as a solo traveler, this is a good option to spend your time and possibly make new friends! πŸ™‚
  9. 5€ KGB prison cells. Definitely worth it. It’s also a small museum, but very informative and you can read all the information from the info boards on the walls and listen to the info videos. If you have any questions, the museum person was a very friendly young Estonian guy. Bonus, a creepy prison toilet for tourists! πŸ˜„
  10. 8,80€ for candy!! The ferries are full of booze, cigarettes and candy. Very healthy haha.πŸ˜… Sometimes you can treat yourself though and candy was kind of my only option. Maybe my next trip will be to Bali beach with fresh fruit and smoothies. Though that won’t be budget traveling and for my current budget. Unless you buy my budgeting guides I can start saving. πŸ˜‰

Here’s my short Youtube video (1min 52sec) of the trip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jDxc5LnJluc . If you don’t want to hear me speak, I made one with music (1min 34sec). πŸ˜ƒ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nYAnZGXNSuA . πŸ˜‚πŸ‘πŸ½

What to Buy When Your Weekend Budget for Grocesories is 20€ ($23,60)

So my weekend budget is 20€ ($23,60). πŸ˜ƒWhich groceries did I buy and did I leave any money to go out?

Here’s what I planned before I went to the supermarket and what I bought for the whole weekend for myself and my cats:

  1. Plan your meals for the whole weekend. Breakfast, lunch, dessert, dinner, drinks and evening snacks.
  2. Salad, carrots, cucumber. I had potatoes, tomatoes, onion, olive oil, salt, and two cans of kidney beans at home. So all these ingredients together will make a salad of 3-4 portions.
  3. Crispbread. I use crispbread as crutons for my salad and you can also eat it with butter as breakfast. If I make soup, crispbread is perfect to crumble on top of it or eat it with butter with your soup.
  4. Cat food. My two cats share one 80g wet food portion per one meal, sometimes 50g portion. If you don’t have cats, use that money to buy food items that last for a long time and can be used for a variety of dishes, such as canned beans, tomato sauce, pasta, noodles, rice.
  5. Flavored tofu. It doesn’t need any extra sauce, just maybe onions and some soya sauce. Serve with rice. One tofu package makes two meals.
  6. Soya milk. I mix it with my coffee, cereal, smoothies and protein powder mix.
  7. Frozen mangoes. I had bananas in my fridge, so I can make 2-3 smoothies (5dl/ 2 cups per smoothie) with one frozen mangoes package, two bananas and soya milk.
  8. Flavored sparkling water 1,5l and one ice cream. Everyone needs a treat and 1€ ($1,18) vegan ice cream is great when you’re on a budget. Since I quit alcohol, I started drinking flavored water and it’s a nice refreshing tasty drink with low sugar.

I spent 19,00€ ($22,48) so I have some change left for another dessert if my sweet tooth aches again this weekend. No money left for partying, but it’s ok since Helsinki nightlife is super BORING and small scale compared to NYC. πŸ˜‚ Anyway, happy weekend everyone!! πŸ˜ƒ

Glamorous Sonia’s weekend salad within a budget. πŸ˜‰πŸ₯—πŸ’°Photo: Sonia Jain

Men Who Use a Number Rating Scale for Women

Not sure if there are “10s” men or women reading my blog, but I’m most definitely not one according to these douchebag’s scales. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ These douchebags rate women from 1-10 and there are THOUSANDS of videos online about this.

I had one guy tell me once that he thinks he is an eight. I was just quietly thinking, where does he rate me in his scale? AND do I even want to know?πŸ˜‚ Needless to say, it never worked out. Since him, I’ve come across MANY more men who use these scales and share videos of misogynist dating videos where rating women’s looks is a number one priority. I’m not exactly sure what men include in their number nines and tens, but I would assume good conversation skills and a Master’s degree aren’t a requirement. 😝

Here’s a quick list what these douchebags think and why you should AVOID being one or dating one:

  1. Women are the problem. These men who rate women by number scales are picky and are sure to let the world know that women are the problem, not them. The best way is to simply change the scenery for new people and a variety of personalities instead of blaming ALL women. A new country, city, school, job etc.
  2. Donald Trump rates women by numbers. Yes, Melania is a ten, but so were his previous two wives. Well until they hit 40. Ironically, he is not even close to a two in his own rating scale. Let’s also not forget what he said about Heidi Klum. πŸ˜‚ (https://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-donald-trump-heidi-klum-not-a-10-anymore-20150817-story.html). It’s not enough to get that perfect woman, she also needs to respect you. πŸ˜‰
  3. Men think perfect body, face, skin, teeth, hair, age. It’s that simple for men who rate women on number scales. Purely looks and age. Here’s an interesting idea for a social experiment. What would happen if this type of man came across two “10s”, one would be a doctor and the other one would be a cleaning lady. Which one would he pick? πŸ˜‰
  4. Women think status, job, personality, looks. For smart women (and men, I hope lol) a nine and a ten is a combination of personality, education, job/ status, fatherhood skills, international experience and looks. Let’s face it, less attractive men have lower self-esteem because men THEMSELVES have created beauty standards for everyone worldwide.πŸ˜†
  5. They use CHEAP tactics. So to attract a “10” with a shitty personality and a beer belly, they use money, power and mindfuck games where they lower a woman’s self-esteem to match their own worthless loser identity. With money of course anything is possible.
  6. People who CATEGORIZE everything have a low IQ. Think “cat people” and “dog people”, “introverts” vs. “extroverts” but if you’re both you’re an “ambivert”.πŸ˜„ I mean for research purposes you need categories, but for normal people to categorise everything makes it easier for them to process large amounts of stimulus, because they’re not very intelligent. Unfortunately, most categories simplify people and leave out a lot of important information of those people, therefore not being accurate data.
  7. Men who rate women from 1-10 think women don’t poop. Yes, this is a myth for men who think women are perfect dolls. You really can’t have a relationship with a man like this. What are you going to do, avoid using the toilet for the rest of your life?πŸ˜†
  8. They are SUPER insecure. Even if these men are 9s or 10s, there’s something about them they are really insecure about. Personality disorder, money, friends, intelligence level, travel experience, childhood bullying. Who knows. We ALL have our insecurities, but most women tend to not project their insecurities on men because we’re so used to blaming ourselves for everything like the society has taught us. So be kind. 😊
  9. Rating scales won’t help anyone in the long run, especially the men. Women are not the losers here, men are. When men chase the perfect looking women, they ignore everyone else. In the worst case they end up alone but most commonly an average looking guy who get’s “a 9 or a 10” will end up being her puppet because she knows her power. πŸ˜€ I’ve come across several divorced men who got wiped out for every penny they were worth by these “perfect” women. Loool.
  10. Women can also be too picky. We all have our standards and women can also have too high standards and end up alone. I’m still single, but I believe my standards aren’t too ridiculous, not looking for 9s and 10s. The problem is that I’m searching for a country I would be the happiest to settle in, because even with a perfect ten, the wrong environment will make you both miserable.

So as a conclusion, it’s not worth rating women or men with a number scale. You’ll set ridiculous expectations for both of you and expectations never made anyone happy. πŸ˜‰

Giving a thumbs up or down for a potential long-term partner is not very smart. (Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com)

Managing Your Credit Card Debt

Budgeting is all about keeping your expenses in tact. You don’t want to spend extra money on interest rates, reminders for paying your bills etc. I’m not a millionaire, I do have A LOT of credit card debt and I’m struggling to pay my bills. So there are people who argue I’m not the best person to give advice to others. Maybe, but I’m speaking about my own personal experiences. I’m writing my own personal story of how I have managed my finances AND avoided bankruptcy while struggling with unemployment and living and paying bills alone in the past seven years.

Here are some things I have PERSONALLY done to manage my credit card debt:

  1. Pay the minimum. If it is the only amount you can afford, negotiate the monthly instalments with your bank. You’ll pay more in interest rates, but sometimes you need to eat too. Also, it’s better that the bank expects you to pay the minimum each month, because it’s always better to voluntarily pay more if you can instead of negotiating each time with the bank if you can pay less.
  2. Utilize free months for your credit card bill. Most banks and credit card companies have this policy. You can have two or more months per year when you don’t need to pay the minimum on your credit card bill. Check with them ASAP and negotiate which months you would like skip paying the minimum fee. Notice though that the interest rate will be deducted from the next month’s instalment. This trick doesn’t save you money, but it simply helps you manage better your low finances for the month and get you back on track for the next month.
  3. Negotiate with the bank/ landlord/ credit card company/ shoe store. Where ever your debt is from, a credit card company, a bank, a phone company, a clothing store etc., you can always try to negotiate longer payment periods, monthly instalments or change the due date of the invoice. It might cost a little extra, but it’s worth not losing your credit record AND you get to keep your shoes and bread and milk. πŸ™‚πŸ™ƒ
  4. Once you get a job, pay the whole credit card debt at once. I’ve had some random jobs in the past seven years while looking for a full time job and even though the pay has been total crap compared to what I should be earning, I’ve always been rational about paying my bills. If I have money, I pay them. If I don’t, I don’t have a choice but to use my credit card to buy food and it’s OK, as long as you pay the minimum each month. I did once the mistake of not paying my whole credit card debt when I could have, and it has been haunting me ever since. Of course when I use my credit card regularly, the debt never decreases.
  5. Pay off the debt with the highest interest rate first. I never had to think about it when I had a full-time job and had to unfortunately learn it while been unemployed. When I got some money from the company I used to work for, I thought I’ll pay ALL my debt and bills off at once. WRONG. Unemployment and the stress and loneliness of being bullied, discriminated in the job market and living alone took its toll on the money. So I decided to pay a little off (after my over priced rent) from my student debt, a little from my credit card debt, and took a nice vacation. What I should have done was 1. Paid the credit card debt in FULL off 2. Took a vacation 3. Paid my student loan. Yes, I put a vacation before student loan, because the interest rate is very low in the student loan. You need to have a stress-free mind to think rationally. So never underestimate the power of vacations and who knows what kind of cool people you could meet on those trips to share your bills and rent with. πŸ˜‰

I hope this helps a little! Let me know your thoughts and comments. πŸ™‚πŸ’°πŸ’°

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Managing your credit card debt is important so you don’t pay extra in interest rates and worst case lose your credit record. πŸ’³πŸ’Έ

Sipping Vodka Won’t Help You Find a Quality Partner

Alcohol is not the key to happiness. No matter what some people claim. πŸ˜‰ It attracts garbage people. Quality women and men want a stable spouse. I’m 35 years old now and I’ve realized after several dating horror stories that being drunk at a nightclub attracts exactly what you can expect from being drunk at a nightclub. πŸ˜† For my misfortune, I also grew up in a country where heavy drinking is part of the culture.

In your 20s it’s fun, going out, getting drinks and socializing with good-looking party people. When you hit 30, however, you want to get serious. I decided that this sipping vodka here and there thing won’t get me anywhere else than on a lame coffee date with a loser.🀣

Here’s a quick list of why alcohol isn’t necessarily the key to a “happily ever after” (even though some Hollywood movies romanticize drunken encounters that lead to marriage):

  1. Alcohol doesn’t give you more confidence. Some women and men think that drinking a few glasses of wine will gain you confidence to approach that hot crush, but what happens if that hot crush hates alcohol? πŸ˜„ Also if you’re too shy to approach people sober, what are you going to do? Be drunk every time you meet your crush? πŸ˜…
  2. Drinking doesn’t attract Harvard people. I will never forget the disappointment on a Harvard- educated man’s face (who ended up in Finland for a work trip for a few months), when he saw me drinking cocktails and wine.πŸ˜– The first time we met, I drank non-alcoholic drinks. So he had high hopes for a quality lady but apparently a few drinks ruined it for me. Oh well. πŸ˜–
  3. Sipping vodka attracts LOSERS! From my experience, drinking attracts the biggest party animals, cheaters, liars, players, man-children and alcoholic losers. πŸ˜‚ Not the best pool of men (or women) to find a stable spouse from. πŸ˜…
  4. You might not remember who you spoke to when you were drunk. So how do you expect to marry that man/ woman one day who you don’t even remember how you met. πŸ˜„
  5. Avoid people who don’t take a NO for an answer for drinking. My Finnish college friend invited me to his party and the only way they would stop pressuring me into drinking was when I told them I came by car. If I didn’t, simply “I’m not in the mood for vodka” wouldn’t have been acceptable answer for these people. Same thing happened in a Finnish tech company I worked for. At company dinner, everyone was drinking vodka shots as aperatives and I refused to drink one. One woman from the Sales department got pissed off and said “Is this really the time to become an absolutist?!” LOL. πŸ˜… I have moved on from that friend circle AND that crazy company. I decided it’s better to spend time alone than with the wrong people. Even if it means scrapping for pennies for food and sitting home alone with my cats on a sexy Saturday night. πŸ˜‚ πŸ€·πŸ½β€β™€οΈ
  6. Don’t drink to reduce anxiety. The Coronavirus pandemic has resulted in many people getting the urge to drink to pass time, help them relax and to reduce anxiety. It’s only a temporary relief though, so it’s better to exercise and talk to supportive friends. If you don’t have supportive friends, talk to your cats, dogs, kids or randoms online.
  7. Men who drink are more prone to domestic violence. In 2006, the World Health Organization published a report on the link between alcohol and domestic violence. “Strong links have been found between alcohol use and the occurrence of intimate partner violence in many countries. Evidence suggests that alcohol use increases the occurrence and severity of domestic violence.” (Source: https://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/world_report/factsheets/fs_intimate.pdf). So even if you go out drinking together with your man and have the time of your life, it doesn’t necessarily mean it will always be fun if alcohol stays in the picture. Women can also have alcohol problems though they are less likely to become violent. They tend to become depressed and irritable which isn’t good for a relationship either.

I decided to quit alcohol when I was sipping wine and vodka alone at home during Coronavirus lockdown and realized that I really need to find healthier ways to manage my stress and loneliness so I don’t have to sit at home alone in the future anymore! πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜… Moving to a new country would help in many ways, but in the mean while, if you have any stories related to alcohol, would love to hear them! Send me an email or a message from Contact page.

Sipping cocktails with your friends can be fun, but if you want to attract a quality man or a woman to start a family with, the “drunk you” won’t attract them. Photo: Sonia Jain

If You Love Your Brands Like I do, You Can Still Buy Them With a Small Budget

Even if you can’t live without your Fila, Nike, Michael Kors, Gucci stuff, there are ways to buy them without paying a full price. No, I don’t mean steal them or buy stolen stuff, but sales, second-hands from your friend circle, recycling and so on.

I have always sold my brand bags when I no longer like them and use that money to buy a new bag. This is a great tactic because you don’t waste your bags or money. So here’s my quick list for buying quality brands but paying less:

  1. Sales. This is obviously a no-brainer for everyone. Just make sure to time your shopping perfectly to get the maximum price deduction. If you can wait, the prices decrease towards the end of the sale.
  2. Brand outlets. These are gems. They often sell last season products, but really if you don’t work for Vogue, who cares?
  3. Buy online. You can save a ton of money by buying online. International shipping is often free of charge too, you just have to find the right stores that ship to your country. Make sure to do your research on international sizes though.
  4. Buy when you’re on holidays (not fake stuff though). Obviously now is not the time for international traveling, but when the borders open up again and tourism is back on track, don’t waste your opportunity for tax-free shopping. Many countries offer this and the ones that don’t might still have cheaper clothes than your home country, because of better exchange rates.
  5. Recycling. Second-hand stores and flea markets are a millennial’s dream. You can get money for your old stuff AND buy new stuff for crazy cheap prices.
  6. Friend circle. Depends who your friends are of course, lol, but this is a good way to get the style you like for a reasonable price and you’ll match your friends. πŸ™‚
  7. Cheap sports stores. Many budget sports stores have opened up to compete with the expensive sports stores. They are very good places to find quality brands for less money.
  8. Directly from the brand. Brands make their own pricing, so when they want to get rid off their last season stuff, they’ll sell their own stuff SUPER cheap. Sign up for your favourite brands’ newsletters and get the info on sales before others!
  9. Cheap electronics stores. There are always cheaper electronics stores that have the exact same stuff than luxury department stores.
  10. Budget stores. Brand shampoos can be 30% cheaper than in a normal store! It’s exactly the same stuff too.

So even when you’re living on a tight budget, you don’t have to look like a beggar. πŸ˜ŠπŸ’°πŸ‘

You can buy quality brands with a small budget too. Photo: Sonia Jain

Affordable Beauty Rituals For Men and Women

I’ve experimented quite a bit with different beauty treatments. Well that was when I had a job and money. Lately, I’ve just settled for home remedies and exercising. πŸ˜„ They can however, go along way when you’re on a budget.

Here’s a list of all the affordable beauty treatments I’ve tried and what works and what doesn’t:

  1. Wax hair removal. Doesn’t work on sensitive skin. At least at home, didn’t try at the salon. I got a bad rash and it left me ingrown hair.
  2. Sugar hair removal. Works. Tried at the salon to remove hair from my upper lip.
  3. Homemade scrubs. Works. Coffee scrub for your body is cool because it’s cheap and effective. Though if you have sensitive skin you should mix in some coconut oil etc. You can also use avocado as a facial to purify your skin on your face.
  4. Hairsalon vs. home dye. Depends. I tried highlights at home, literally NEVER worked out.πŸ˜† Highlights at the salon works. (If you pick a good hair stylist) If you have an even hair color, such as black, it’s super easy to dye the roots yourself. Just make sure your skin tone and hair colour compliment each other. Nothing looks tackier than bleach blonde hair on very dark skin and pitch black hair on super pale skin. As a general rule, warm tones for brown skin, cold tones for light skin. I prefer for example blonde-toffee color highlights. In my opinion, unnatural bright red doesn’t look good on ANYONE ever.
  5. Eye creams for dark under eyes. Doesn’t work. I tried like twenty different ones from 3€- 100€ ($3,40- $112). The 100€ ($112) does NOT work. I bought it when I had a full-time job and a regular salary. It was purely marketing and waste of money unfortunately. Dark under eyes are inherited, so depends on your genes and ethnicity. Traditional sleep deprivation is different than my dark under eyes. Some racist men have also made it their mission to make sure I know I have the eye bags and YES, I fucking know.
  6. Teeth whitening. Works. 7,5% or 9,5% Day White ACP Hydrogen Peroxide for 10-20min twice per day for a week at home rather than at the dentist, because if you have sensitive teeth, it will hurt like hell at the dentist. I tried and the problem for my teeth is that they use too strong Hydrogen Peroxide because they need the results in one hour. My dentist recommended me the home kit because I told him my teeth are super sensitive. He also said whitening toothpastes are a marketing trick and damage your teeth. The dentist makes a custom mould for your teeth and you buy the whitening gel from your dentist or online, such as dentist.net.
  7. Hair and nail growth supplements. Depends. I bought some from a pharmacist in Paris and they worked like magic! I guess it depends on your country’s regulations, what stuff is allowed and what is banned.
  8. Coconut oil. Works. It’s usually used as skin moisturiser. The only downside is that you smell like coconuts.😝 Maybe better not to use before going to the office.
  9. Avocado oil. Works. I bought it from a nail salon. It strengthens fragile nails.
  10. Castor oil. Doesn’t work. I used it for growing my eyebrows and eyelashes for more than a year. I didn’t really see any visible results in my eyebrows, though my eyelashes did get thicker.
  11. Argan oil. Works. This oil is used for dry or damaged hair. It worked for my hair because I used to have natural blonde highlights. Though my hair is naturally TOO oily and that is why I preferred highlights to dry my hair a little bit so I didn’t have to wash it everyday.
  12. Vicco Indian cream. Works. This cream works like magic for pimples and red spots. It’s available in Asian stores in Europe or if you go to India, it costs only one euro ($1,20) there.
  13. Vitamin supplements. Depends. I didn’t notice any difference when I took vitamin supplements and vitamin drinks. However, I haven’t tried many of them and there MANY. When I lived in NYC for a couple months, my roommate was a model and she recommended me vitamins for pregnant women even if you’re not pregnant. She told me they have more nutritions than normal vitamin supplements. Haven’t tried them yet though.
  14. Finnish sauna. Works. You sweat off toxins, it clear out your skin and you come out relaxed! Finnish sauna is a wooden sauna usually kept at 80 Celsius degrees. I like to sit alone for an hour. I used to go once a week when I lived in an apartment that had one.
  15. Drink two litres of water everyday. Works. Some people don’t like the taste of water, so you can drink sparkling water, add lemon/ lime juice or orange pieces, strawberries or add some store bought flavor. Water clears your skin and keeps you hydrated. Also helps for cellulite.
  16. Fresh fruit and vegetables. Works. For example just eating half a grapefruit has your daily intake of vitamin C. 🍎🍊
  17. Gave up sugar for eight months. Works. It worked miracles on cellulite, but it comes back once you stop your sugar-free diet. Sugar is unfortunately my weak spot, because I’m under constant stress as an unemployed single woman.😫
  18. Followed mostly a plant-based diet. Depends. You are what you eat. I tried to become a vegan, but currently follow a dairy-free pescatarian diet. I eat tofu, fresh spinach, rice and potatoes.
  19. Oily fish. Depends. Even though I try to eat vegan food most of the time, oily fish, such as salmon is an excellent source of protein, B vitamins and Omega-3 fatty acids.
  20. Gave up alcohol. This is a very new thing to me (even though I had a couple of 8-month periods without alcohol). There is an endless list of the harmful effects of alcohol for your body and mind. I used to think a few glasses of wine are healthy and vodka helps purify toxins in your body. I have changed my mind now. Let’s see how the results will be by the end of the year. I will keep you updated. πŸ˜‰
Eating healthy and exercising go A LONG way. Eat your veggies EVERY DAY and have fish once per week. Add some nice make-up, stylish hair and trendy clothes and you’re good to go!πŸ˜‰πŸ’‹ Emphasize your features that bring you confidence. πŸ™Œ Photo: Sonia Jain

Job Hunting Glamorously

If you’re unemployed, you know how stressful the situation is. If you are also single, you’ve also probably experienced the total disinterest in dating and meeting new people. When you focus on how to earn a buck for food, you’re not really interested in finding a man to have a bunch of screaming babies with.🀣 Also, the Coronavirus situation has disrupted the global job market. The ones who have now suffered the most in this situation are people like me, freelancers, job-seekers and singles. I simply have no income outlets at the moment and it’s a sad reality of our selfish discriminatory society.

Job hunting requires you to dress well, look representable, be nice, be diplomatic and know your stuff. So to keep a cool head and not look like a homeless hobo, you need to learn how to manage your stuff. Here are some things I have done in the past SEVEN years in Finland while looking for a full-time job worth my Master’s Degree in International Business Management:

  1. Kept a professional wardrobe. You never know when your next job interview is or if someone will hire you from abroad, so you need to have some business clothes ready and in hand. You can get designer clothes on sale from online stores, such as Farfetch. Zara and Mango are great too if you apply to a tech company where nobody understands fashion and you’re BROKE AF like me.πŸ˜†
  2. Learned to manage stress by MYSELF. I tried online therapy, talked to some mental health professionals and they didn’t help me AT ALL. It was the exact opposite, I felt more miserable after talking to these judgemental unempathetic “professionals”. Exercising, drinking wine, petting my cats and talking to old people have helped me. Old people have manners and values that under 65 year olds simply don’t have. They grew up in the generation of surviving, so they don’t whine about stupid shit.
  3. You need your electronics. Buy second hand if needed or pay monthly installments. Of course, you need a phone for calls, a laptop for modifying your CV (you can check Adobe Office packages for students if you are eligable or buy a normal package) and an affordable Internet plan. For example, I have a cheap phone plan with Internet instead of having Wifi in my apartment, so you can do your job hunting anywhere at anytime and call abroad etc.
  4. Pay your bills on time so you don’t get a mark on your credit record. Negotiate with your bank if you need to. Some employers will check this stuff.
  5. Exercise regularly. You won’t feel like drinking every night or binge eating when you maintain an exercise routine that you follow every week. When you know you have to do heavy exercise in the morning, you will not drink, smoke or do anything unhealthy the night before. Also it’s very important to keep a cool head and helps cope with continuous years and years long stress. Your energy levels will be high too and employers will appreciate high energy people.
  6. Networking, networking and networking! I have 500+ Linkedin connections and I have met almost all of them. There’s a few randoms from Twitter but the key for networking is obviously to meet people in person. Networking could lead to a job, so take it seriously.
  7. Be on time for meetings. Any meetings for that matter, doesn’t have to be a job interview.
  8. Tried getting a job abroad. In Europe there are channels, such as EURES, unemployment offices, workers’ unions and international headhunters who get paid to find you a job abroad. Be prepared to do low skilled work when you first move abroad and then find something worth your skills.
  9. Kept my skills up to date. Google has free online courses, check your unemployment office for free short courses, lear how to code, build a website, or paint a house etc. Whatever skill you want to improve, find FREE courses to do it.
  10. Study a new profession is the advice I simply DESPISE. Who has money and time to study 3,5 – 6 years for a new profession when you need to eat and breath too?πŸ˜† Not to mention try to look representable for possible job interviews. Save yourself the time and go give your CRAP advice to someone else. I think TWO business degrees are more than enough, so focus your advice on people with ZERO education. They seem to occupy the job market in the tech field anyways. πŸ˜ƒ
  11. Volunteered for different organizations. They might have paid job opportunities too.
  12. People hire who they like. Remember, a-holes hire a-holes. So if you didn’t get that job, that 50th job or that 150th job you applied to, you know why.πŸ˜„ Apply to a different field, continent, country and change your references.
Look professional when you attend job interviews, networking events or meet new people. This whole outfit is from two brand outlet stores in New York City (in 2014) and every item was less than $150. Classic pieces like these will last for years. πŸ‘—

Happy Single Woman

After a quick Google search, I found out that there are other single women blogging about their lives too. Bella De Paulo is a Harvard-educated single woman from California and she talks about the positive aspects of being single on her website and has written books about the topic as well. She has also listed resources for “single people who are not whining about being single” and I asked her to feature my blog on her list, http://www.belladepaulo.com/2018/02/list-blogs-single-life/. πŸ˜„

Even though I’m not super happy about being single in Finland (can’t wait to leave!), here’s anyways my list of the positive aspects of my single life with a twist of sarcasmπŸ˜‰:

  1. You don’t have to worry about being cheated on. πŸ’”
  2. You don’t have to shave your legs everyday.
  3. You don’t have to look representable 24/7.
  4. You can poop in peace without worrying your man will smell it. πŸ’©
  5. You don’t have to worry about pointless gossip or why your man was talking to some random woman in a nightclub.
  6. You don’t have to worry about jealous (and racist) people who literally break up relationships for “fun” or to “save the white race”. LOOLZZ. πŸ˜†
  7. You can super quickly and easily move to a new country when you don’t have any “baggage” like a husband or a kid. πŸ˜‚ βœˆοΈπŸ—Ί
  8. You can flirt with hot guys all you want and go to nightclubs, parties and events and be the fun and flirty you without having to worry about your man getting jealous. πŸ˜„πŸ’ƒπŸ½
  9. You don’t have to worry about getting pregnant or using birth control pills that make you a total raging psycho. (Yes, I tried them once. Hormone pills are not my thing.)
  10. You can cook your healthy vegetarian/ vegan food without stressing what your partner will eat and you don’t need to cook his nasty meat for him. πŸ₯•πŸ₯¦
  11. You can have as many cats as you like. 😺😺😺😺😺😺😺😺
  12. You can eat cake, ice-cream, chocolate and biscuits as MUCH as you like without having to worry about getting fat since nobody will see your body anyway. 🀣🀣🍦🧁🍰🍩🍫
  13. You can drink wine and vodka everyday without having to worry about neglecting your child or forgetting to cook for your husband. 🍷🍷🍷🍸🍸
  14. You can spend your extra money (after bills) on make-up, shoes and dresses instead of baby diapers and birthday gifts for your husband. πŸ‘ πŸ‘—πŸ’„
  15. You don’t have to stress about doing stuff in bed that your man demands you to do.
  16. You can get away with saying stupid shit by simply saying you’re a single woman, aka “insane” in many cultures. So what do I know, I’m just a “foul-mouthed crazy single woman, so STFU!” πŸ€£πŸ€·πŸ½β€β™€οΈ
  17. You can join 20 dating sites and flirt and talk with men all over the world and pick your favorites. You don’t even need to meet them, but friendly online conversations will be refreshing and boost your self-esteem. πŸ’ƒπŸ½
  18. You can spend your time and money on getting an education, a Bachelor’s, Master’s or a PhD degree instead of getting a boob job, because men will anyway choose boobs over brains. πŸ˜„You also don’t have to renew your college degree every 10-20 years like breast implants require. You can then read your knowledge out loud to your cats on a sexy Saturday night at home. πŸ€“πŸ“š
  19. You don’t have to worry about your emotions, because single people don’t need to be “vulnerable” to anyone. You can just continue to be an ice cold bitch. Lolz.
  20. You don’t have to worry about ever being dumped because you are married to yourself and if you need a cuddling buddy, your cats will love you to the moon and back. 🐱❀️
The good thing about being single is that you can get drunk everyday and not have to worry about neglecting your kids and feeding your husband. πŸ˜›πŸΈπŸ·πŸ‘πŸΌ