Before Buying Canned Soup, Consider Cooking These Healthy and Cheap Dishes

When you are single and unemployed, it’s difficult to eat healthy, because healthy food is generally more expensive worldwide. Especially in the States and Ireland, I noticed that healthy food is not first of all available in normal stores, but it also costs a lot more. In Finland food is generally very expensive (especially when you don’t have a regular job and pay all your food expenses ALONE plus your TWO Cookie Monster cats). Healthy food is easy to find here, but it can also be expensive if you don’t know how to shop or cook your own meals.

Here are some of my favourite cheap dishes to make when you are single and unemployed or just single/ unemployed/ a student/ retired/ saving money for your kids/ on a budget. I have included the estimate price for Finland. (the food prices are higher than in the United States and an average European country like France, so chances are you will make these dishes for 30-40% cheaper). My favourite top ten cheap and quick vegetarian/ vegan dishes for less than two euros per portion (2€ = $2,16):

  1. Indian dal with rice. Red lentils, brown lentils or yellow lentils. 0,70€/ $0,76 per portion.
  2. Finnish potato-leek soup. 0,55€/ $0,59 per portion.
  3. Finnish tomato soup. 0,50€/ $0,54 per portion.
  4. Indian Palak Paneer with rice. (Indian spinach tofu/ cheese dish). 2€/ $2,16 per portion
  5. Three Bean Chili in tomato sauce (vegan). 1,20€/ $1,30 per portion
  6. Thai wok with tofu. 2€/ $2,16 per portion
  7. Salad with kidney beans – you can add anything you find in your kitchen (vegan). 2€/ $2,16 per portion
  8. Pasta with tomato eggplant sauce (vegan without parmesan). 1€/ $1,08 per portion
  9. Couscous with tofu and (frozen) vegetables. 2€/ $2,16 per portion
  10. Vegan sandwich – bread roll, hummus, cucumber/ tomato. 1,50€/ $1,62 per portion

My doctor told me to cut down wheat, so replacing pasta with fresh salads is also a good idea. Pasta is however, cheap, easy and quick, so for men and growing children it is especially a nice dish to prepare yourself. I don’t eat meat (except seafood though it’s expensive) and try to avoid dairy products as much as I can, so that is why my dishes are vegetarian/ vegan.

If you would like to have the recipes for free (most of them are from Google), please contact me via my contact form on the Contact page! 🙂✌️

6. Thai wok with tofu. (2€/ $2,16 per portion) Don’t add parsley though if you want to save a buck. IT IS expensive (at least in Finland, one fresh parsley plant costs 2 EUROS (€) ). 😆 Photo: Sonia Jain

How to Date Glamorously When You’re Living Within a Budget

Dating is a challenge in any situation, especially finding THE ONE, when you’re already in your 30s and get pressure from all directions to start a family and settle. Unemployment, however, will crush your self-esteem into tiny little pieces. Especially when you have worked your ass off to do everything by the book, got your degree, got work experience, speak the necessary languages, have the helpful personality, are healthy and young etc… It’s soul crushing. 😫 So when you try to figure out how to buy food for you and your cookie monster cats, dating isn’t exactly a top priority. Yeah some may argue, that it will just be easier to get a rich husband who will pay for your food while you search for a job. Well, I tried to find one and failed. Lol. That’s why being single and unemployed IS such a tricky situation. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Don’t fall for despair though.❤️ It doesn’t help, nobody gives a flying fuck haha. Even after twelve years of crappy employers sucking the blood out of you and a bunch of a-holes looking for every pimple to point out in your body. You just have to stand tall, figure out how to find your lost confidence and then try to utilize that in the dating world. Here are some of my tips for dating when you are unemployed, don’t have many supportive friends around and are looking for a relationship. These twenty dating tips (10 Do’s and 10 Dont’s) with a twist of sarcasm are all based on my OWN real life personal experiences and can be used by both women and men. 😊 💃🏽

  1. Be honest. If your date asks you if someone has talked crap about her/ him, nothing will make you look more respectable than being totally honest. There are a lot bullies out there but the good ones (keepers!) do NOT want to date them, breath next to them or even think about their disgusting existence. So if you know shit, spill it out. Then you guys can talk together how pathetic these trash talkers are. Everyone wants a partner who will stand up for them when nobody else will. 👏👏
  2. Be diplomatic, but not a doormat. I don’t keep track how many times I have been called a bitch for simply standing up for myself and calling out a douchebag for douchebag behavior. Better to be a bitch than a snake! 😃 Bitches have integrity, snakes don’t. Even though a snake will say the prettiest words and cater to your every wish, kind of like a blow out doll. Some men prefer mute dolls, real men prefer bitches.
  3. Cook/ bake for him/ her. I’m a baker. It’s relaxing and a great hobby. I also like to give cakes as gifts to the people I like and a good man will appreciate your cupcakes. 🧁
  4. Be encouraging and give compliments. There’s not a single person in the world who wants to be criticized and have their every flaw pointed out in their appearance. I live by the rule that if a man asks which celebrity is my favorite, I mention someone who looks like him. Men should also utilize this diplomatic/ smart tactic.
  5. Help him/ her something he/she needs. Clean the apartment, hang a painting on the wall, take care of his/ her pets etc. Don’t mix work and dating though. Offering a job when you secretly want to date her/ him will create confusion and nobody wants to look unprofessional. (Especially when job hunting.)
  6. Be direct. It depends on the person of course, but in my case I directly say what I want. Interestingly though it has attracted the wrong kind of men so far. Our society is still (worldwide, but surprisingly also in “advanced modern” Scandinavian countries too) very conservative. Women have to wait for men to approach them. I have literally scared men off by telling them directly what I want. 🤷🏽‍♀️ So I guess this tip is for the men out there. 😀✌️
  7. Buy flowers for her or a cute teddy bear. Women think teddy bears are cute regardless their age. 😊🐻 Any small gift is actually a sign of appreciation. (Just take off the sales tag if you buy an item on sale. Especially French cheese. 🤣)
  8. Go to a museum or art exhibition instead of a movie. It’s a good chance to talk and ask questions but with less pressure when you look at the paintings instead of staring at each other in a cafe. Busy cafes are also not that great for asking personal questions. ☕️
  9. Dress well. Ask French people how to dress well or models. You can find one model or someone who knows a model from any friend circle, job and school/ university. 💃🏻 🕺🏼
  10. Go dancing to a dance club, not a nightclub. Big salsa parties are great, because you blend into the crowd and nobody notices your crappy dancing skills. 💃🏽😉
  11. Don’t call a woman schizophrenic, a drug addict, a closet lesbian who (when she take a break from being a lesbian) sleeps with every man she comes across, an alcoholic or other ridiculous (not to mention ILLEGAL) LIES if she is not into you. I’ve straight out called men out for their BS and as an “adult” mature response this is what I have received. 🤣😂👎🏼
  12. Douchebags can smell vulnerability. Nothing attracts assholes more than being in a financially vulnerable situation. Then there are also those exceptions, men who want to “save you”. They are rare though and still you are forced to depend on a man’s help. Nothing wrong with that but it’s dangerous if you aren’t careful who you trust. (Same goes for men, women can also exploit men in vulnerable situations.)
  13. Don’t talk in an aggressive demeaning manner to any woman. If you think you look macho, you don’t. You look pathetic. Women can be too aggressive too and sensitive men can’t handle temperamental women (like me).
  14. Stalking is NOT love. Stop getting your dating advice from psychopaths. They don’t know how to love. They conquer and control. So if you happen to a be normal man and think psychopathic behavior will get you a woman, you’re WRONG. At least a loyal woman’s love. You might get a woman, but she will betray you the first chance she gets if you unleash your psychopathy on her.😂 Same goes for women though, try to control your psychopathic tendencies. (Especially during your period!)
  15. Don’t be a racist and ask a woman/ man out from another race or a mixed race person. She/ he will find out eventually. 🤣
  16. Don’t encourage other people to behave worse than you just because you’re mannerless garbage who doesn’t have the skills to change himself. Especially do NOT make a woman’s friend circle abandon her and make people turn on her. It will eventually come back to bite you in the ass. Even if it will take more than SEVEN years, women do not forget or forgive this shit. Same goes for women, though men seem to be much more loyal to their male friends than female friends are to theirs.
  17. Don’t get your dating advice from a man-hater feminist woman. She will only try to discreetly sabotage your date. You have to find a feminist woman who loves men. Equally bad (or worse) are misogynist dating books that advice you to lower a woman’s self-esteem to make her “easy pray”. NO.
  18. Don’t talk about your exes! Do not demonize them, make them sound like a God’s gift on Earth or anything else. Just don’t.
  19. Don’t go on a date in a place with bad memories and traumas. Go to another city or country if you have to. Nobody needs extra drama in their lives. ✈️
  20. Don’t start demanding stuff in bed before you have committed to her. It’s important to have a mutual understanding of what both of your sexual needs are once you are in a committed relationship. It’s insulting AF to start demanding stuff before you are serious. Women aren’t idiots nobody wants to be used. (At least the worthy ones who will wipe your old ass when you’re 90.) 👍🏼

If you are interested in more dating tips or just want to read about my crazy dating experiences, I have written two dating guides, one for women and one for men. 🌺 They are funny and informative and sadly ALL based on my real life. 😆 Not all of it is super sad though, there are still some good men out there. I have collected the best (and the worst) examples of them from my life to your guide. So if you would like to purchase it, drop me a message on Contact page. I can guarantee you 90% that you will get a date if you follow ALL of my dating instructions. Even when you’re unemployed. 😉🌺 Drop me a message with your comments/ if you tried out my advice and how it worked out for you! ❤️

14. Try to control your psychopathic tendencies. 🔪
(Don’t worry, I didn’t kill the monster. It’s fake blood from Halloween.😉) Photo: Sonia Jain

How to Dress Well Without Money

Looking glamorous without money is obviously a challenge.😄 The good thing is though that there are some tricks to maintain your glamour even when you feel like shit, look like shit, are surrounded by shitty bullies and are totally penniless. 😂

Here are 25 things I have done to maintain my glamour while being single and unemployed:

  1. Utilized my old good quality clothes. You all have probably some clothes you bought when you had a job in your wardrobe, but abandoned them when you lost your job. Get them out! 👗
  2. Bought clothes from flea markets/ second-hand stores.
  3. Utilized sales sections in expensive stores.
  4. Bought clothes/ shoes online for a much cheaper price.
  5. Fixed my good quality clothes/ stuff myself. For example, you can fix a hole in a sweater or an umbrella yourself instead of buying new ones.
  6. Subscribed for high-end brands’ newsletters and received campaign offers and sales by email. (and they keep reducing the prices the longer you wait)
  7. Bought classic, clean cut timeless pieces of clothing. One good quality little black dress can last for even ten years and still stay in fashion. You can use it for different occasions too, such as work, party or vacation by accessorizing this one dress differently.
  8. Took care of my shoes/ bags. Leather care is a must if you want to keep your leather shoes and bags looking good for years. Leather will last for decades if you take good care of it.
  9. Ignored the a-holes. Useless people will always talk, so to keep yourself glamorous, don’t engage in bullshit. Don’t lower your standards and values for crap people. That’s their goal, they feel intimidated for whatever reason and need validation. Nothing will make you look cheaper than lowering yourself to the level of the useless bullies. Even when the bullies have millions in their bank account and an expensive car, they make themselves look cheap AF with their behavior.
  10. Combined cheaper clothes with expensive items. You can wear a one euro T-shirt and look glamorous if you accessorize it well with more high quality items.
  11. Wore clothes that fit my body. Even if you could afford a 10 000€ dress, it will look cheap if it doesn’t fit your body type. You CAN look glamorous in a 10€ dress if it fits you perfectly. Don’t show too much skin, no matter how amazing your body is or hot the party is, because it won’t look glamorous.
  12. Maintained great hair. (even though Finnish hairstylists LOVE to fuck up my hair deliberately even when I pay full price!) Great hair is the first step to looking glamorous regardless of your financial situation. In my opinion, all men look absolutely GLAMOROUS with a beard. 😍 Not a dirty hippie beard, but a sexy short lumberjack beard.
  13. Maintained my skincare and makeup routines. Even when I can’t afford expensive skincare products. Soap and a shower go a long way when you don’t have a fucking choice. 🤣
  14. Bought good quality and comfortable shoes. It’s not very glamorous, if you can’t walk and your feet are full of blisters. You can buy good quality for a reasonable price, just look online, utilize sales and sometimes you can even buy clothes/ shoes with monthly installments. (Interest rate will of course be higher with monthly payments and you end up paying more in the end.. poor people’s problems. Sigh.)
  15. Ate healthy but cheap food. Instead of popping pills and vitamin supplements, eat fresh fruit and vegetables. Fresh vegetables aren’t very expensive either (compared to meat/ fish) and have all the vitamins you need for a healthy glow.
  16. Kept my nails short and natural. Many people seem to think long witch-like fake nails are glamorous AF, but I think it looks cheap AF. Not to mention you can’t do anything with your long nails and if you chip one, you look even more ridiculous. Then you have to constantly run to the nail salon to fix your nails and in my opinion, glamorous people don’t waste their time in useless stuff.
  17. Never tried (and never will) fake eyelashes. So many women think they look glamorous and posh, but again in my opinion (you don’t have to agree with me) they look fake and make your whole look fake. When you don’t wear any make-up, you still have your fake eyelashes on and it looks strange. Dying your eyelashes gives you a more natural look. Even if you have short eyelashes, dying your lashes will make your eyes pop out and of course a great mascara/ eyeliner. Natural eyes/ eyelashes make you look younger BTW!!
  18. Wore high heels, but not too high and accessorized them well. Who doesn’t love high heels?! They make you look glamorous, but only if you style them well and wear heels that fit you. Classic black/ nude pumps with 9-11cm heels are my favorites. You don’t trip over even if you’re a bit tipsy. 😉👠
  19. Avoided hair extensions. Who doesn’t love long hair?! Men find long hair very attractive, but times also change. The modern woman can look amazing with a short and simple hairstyle. If you like to use hair extensions, try a different haircut instead. New hair color and style can make even thin hair look gorgeous and glamorous. Check how celebrities style their short hair. A new short look will also be cheaper to maintain than hair extensions.
  20. Avoided perfume/ men with strong cologne. Don’t get me wrong, I used to LOVE to splash on perfume. But now my financial situation hasn’t really allowed me to spend extra money on expensive perfumes. Think how much you will save and perfume is something nice to have but not a necessity. Deodorant, soap, shampoo and a moisturiser are MUST haves for men and women. Perfume/ cologne are not a must and especially if you use too much of it. Better to go without if you plan to attract new potential partners and want people to be near you.
  21. Drank mocktails instead of cocktails. Nobody thinks being wasted is glamorous. Maybe when you are a teenager in a music festival but chances are you will end up vomiting and whatever glamour you had… ENDS there. 🍸 You can drink alcohol and be glamorous, but for an unemployed person’s budget it’s not really worth it.(Nightclub prices). One mocktail in a nightclub in a company you actually enjoy will do the trick. I had a bad habit of drinking a lot simply because I don’t like the country where I live.
  22. Took care of my mental/ physical health. Being crazy isn’t exactly glamorous even though Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence made it cool (and broke the stigma surrounding mental health) in Silver Linings Playbook. If you can’t afford therapy like me, do other things. Exercising is number one for both mental and physical health. Spend time with your friends (if you don’t have friends like me, get a pet). Do the things you love. If you can’t afford them, find cheaper options. Google it if you have to. Having a support network is crucial and the lack of it is extremely damaging. Go online to find a community you like or try to find a job in a new country.
  23. Wore good quality accessories. If you can’t afford it, don’t wear it. Fake bags and sunglasses aren’t very glamorous. Find a style that doesn’t require expensive brands. You can buy a good quality watch for a reasonable price if you avoid high-end brands and simple earrings will go a long way. You don’t need to buy gold and diamonds to look glamorous. Find jewellery that is timeless and simple, like pearls.
  24. Avoided making racist/ sexist/ mocking jokes. Racism might have been glamorous in nazi Germany in the 1940s, but it sure as fuck isn’t glamorous anymore.😆 Nothing screams more cheap trash (regardless of your financial status, race, nationality, gender, country) than cheap jokes on others expense. Especially if you mock the most vulnerable people of the society such as refugees, minorities, handicapped, single mothers, gays etc. You can be the president of the country, CEO of a powerful company or have an elite business school degree and still look cheap AF if you make disgusting jokes. The only people it will attract is other disgusting non-glamorous people. Some super rich like to act like morons because they have so much money that they simply don’t care. However, the older they get, they start to realize nobody around them actually respected them at any point in their lives. Simply tolerated because they had to.
  25. Volunteered for different causes. Single and unemployed people have A LOT of excess time, so use it wisely. I will write a separate blog about boredom, but there’s nothing more glamorous than helping others. You can walk around with a 5000€ handbag or drive a 200 000€ car, but if you don’t help others, you are not glamorous. Selfishness in my opinion isn’t glamorous. Exploiting volunteers is trashy AF. Healthy selfishness in the other hand is glamorous AF. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t give a flying fuck about your help/ volunteering/ empathy and be glamorously selfish!! 😂 ✈️
How to be glamorously single and unemployed. Step one, wear timeless clothes.
7. Sonia likes to wear timeless pieces of clothing, such as classic black pumps, a trench coat and fit pants. (Every item in this pic costs between 35-117€) The juvenile scooter, however, is NOT part of Sonia’s glamorous lifestyle. 😝

Maintaining Your Hot Body HOT

One of the best ways to handle your mental health is to exercise, like I mentioned in my previous post. Of course, exercising is also crucial to stay physically fit and healthy. However, exercising and expensive hobbies can be a challenge when you’re single and unemployed, so what should you do? Eat less? Starve yourself so you don’t gain weight because you can’t afford a fucking gym membership?!🤣

No need to go to unhealthy lengths. You can for example for starters find a cheap (or even free) second-hand bike online or through relatives, friends, university bulletin boards etc. Exercising outdoors is cost-efficient, healthy and you get your privacy. The amount of exercise you need is individual, but the minimum should be three times per week. Even if you exercise five times per week, it’s not guaranteed for a perfect body though. It’s especially challenging when you’re under constant financial stress, finding a full-time job and loneliness, because comfort food is just so good. In imperfect times, people tend to develop imperfect habits. Drinking, junk food, too much sugar, smoking, and too much TV. When you don’t have a regular job and someone to support you mentally (and financially), it is especially easy to fall for unhealthy habits. Stress can also make you gain weight. So if you like food as much as I do, try to balance it with regular exercise, especially when you have the time for it. 😊

Things I have done to maintain a regular exercise routine and a semi-healthy diet with my limited budget in an unsupportive country.

  1. I swear by SWEAT fitness app. Try the free trial first or do the exercises on Youtube before you purchase the app.
  2. MyFitnessPal app is free and I actually lost 7kg when I tracked everything I ate for eight months.
  3. Got a bike from a relative (old school bike without gears, so extra hard to cycle hills and stuff.😄)
  4. Walked alone in a forest.
  5. Walked alone in a grave yard. (yeah I know my life is sad, but grave yards are good for walking because they are kind of like parks, but with zero people around. Well, alive people.😆)
  6. Attended free yoga events. Outdoors summer yoga is amazing.
  7. Utilized free gym trials.
  8. Hunted down a gym from literally EVERYWHERE, countryside, little villages, hotels, spas, weird NYC neighbourhoods, Bulgaria, and if I didn’t find one, worked out from my hotel/ Airbnb room. Found some real random stuff too with my mini budget.The crappiest gym was probably in Malta (attended mostly by Eastern European bodybuilders). 😆💪🏼
  9. Walked my landlord’s dog in Malta and NYC.
  10. Rented a cool city bike in different vacation destinations.
  11. Took a bike tour when I was travelling alone.
  12. Cycled to work instead of taking the bus.
  13. Drank sugar free drinks. Even if you eat cake, cutting down sugar from other things is still helpful.
  14. Took a dance class. (they are expensive so start by paying for one class first and if you like the class buy 10 time card etc.)
  15. Utilized a personal trainer offer at a gym.
  16. Utilized a free InBody body composition analysis at a local gym.
  17. Paid a personal trainer to make me a meal plan.
  18. Drank protein shakes/ ate protein bars/ protein rich food.
  19. Went to a zumba class instead of boring cardio like running. Some people are demotivated to exercise because it’s “boring” or too intense. So find something that makes it fun, easy to begin with and inspiring like dancing or yoga.
  20. Did pilates (when I had a gym membership). You can continue pilates at home if you can’t afford your gym membership anymore. You can check videos from YouTube.

I exercise a lot, but my body is not perfect because my diet isn’t that great. That’s the dilemma of unemployment/ single life, you have to stay fit/ healthy to find a job and a partner but then you are also under constant stress and pressure in trying to maintain your finances and sanity ALONE. Even though many long term singles are mentally much stronger than needy relationship people (who cheat/ bully singles), we are not SUPER humans either. Finding a supportive network of people is crucial for success, so try to find friends who have the same goals than you. Keeping fit is easier with people who share your goals. If you can’t find people (like in my case) then do it alone with an app. Then when the time is right, move to another country (warm weather helps you keep fit, you have limitless opportunities for outdoor exercising) and find your support network there. 🌞

Today I’m grateful for my physical health (mental not so much 😛), my two passports and my capacity to see through other people’s bullshit.

Single lonely life walking in the forest alone.
4. Who needs people when you can just walk alone in the forest for seven years. 😆 Photo: Sonia Jain

How to NOT Go Insane Without a Partner and Money

Which is worse, no sex or no money? There are a lot of misconceptions of single people, especially single women. We’re “sluts” and men are “players”. The mutual connection seems to be that we are all “immature” since we can’t find a partner and manage our finances. WRONG. We just have higher standards than the regular person who will get divorced by 35, have a second marriage (if lucky) by 45 and then finally end up alone because too much drama. Sometimes you even might end up alone because of a tragedy, your partner fell ill etc., so NEVER judge without getting your facts right. People who NEED to be in a relationship, instead of wanting one, do not make the best partners. They aren’t independent and are super judgemental. They are the type to cheat too, because they value having a relationship more than the actual person they are with. I know some of these cheaters (didn’t date them, since I don’t date😆) and their personalities are weak. Weak people can’t be alone, so they pick whoever man/ woman they find and it ends up in a disaster. Being single really sucks sometimes, but I guess the bright side is that it makes you a stronger person and not many people have the mental strength to do that. Married people who cheat are the weakest people and they also love to judge singles like there’s a reward for it. Now you know WHY they judge you though, you are mentally stronger than them and they can’t stand it. 😄

Quality takes time. Though it would be nice to have money to eat and buy clothes.😛 So how do I manage my mental health? The vicious thing also about being single and unemployed is that you make the easiest target for sadistic bullies. I know I have. It will take several blog posts to go through that and I’m not really into becoming a spokesperson for bullying. There are better ways to handle your bullies. 😉

Anyway, here are 30 things I have done to manage my mental health while being single and unemployed:

  1. Exercised A LOT. First gym when I could afford it , then started using a fitness app at home. Walked in the forest in fresh air and zero annoying people around. Cycling outdoors (got a second hand bike for free) and exploring new places. (alone..!)
  2. Got a cat and then a second one = now a cat mom of two. 😸
  3. Attended random free events with random people to feel less lonely.
  4. Tried dating (didn’t work out).
  5. Joined Twitter in 2016, rage tweeting is surprisingly therapeutic.
  6. Talked to my retired relatives (old people have good stories).
  7. Did yoga and breathing exercises.
  8. Tried meditation (didn’t like it).
  9. Traveled when I had money and when I didn’t I planned a trip (the surprising positive effects of simply planning a trip instead of taking one are underrated).
  10. Moved to a new country and took my cat with me, but things didn’t work out unfortunately. 😖
  11. Ate fresh fruit. Fruit are healthy, delicious and full of natural vitamins. They boost your mood quickly. 🍎🍊
  12. Allowed myself bad habits, such as sugar and alcohol (red wine and dark chocolate are actually healthy), cake is too good to give up and healthier than smoking, so stuff that cake in your face, girlfriend. 🍰
  13. Talked to random people about my problems, because my local friends abandoned me.
  14. Whatsupped my aunt in India and sent and received cute memes.
  15. Skyped some friends abroad.
  16. Baked A LOT (the problem was that I didn’t find anyone to give my cupcakes and brownies to, so I had to eat them ALL lol).
  17. Fixed things like made the “perfect” cake, etc. are important for your mental health. When everything else around you seems to fall apart, you need something “perfect”, even if it’s just a cake.
  18. Cleaning, cleaning and more cleaning! A clean and organized apartment is very important for your mental health. You spend time in doing something productive, see the results immediately (we all need little wins in life) and you make your living space pleasant. Just looking at an organized wardrobe can give you surprising mental peace.
  19. Joined a dating site to make myself feel better about myself (who doesn’t like random compliments?!)
  20. Got a friend to take good quality pictures of me for a very reasonable price. When you see yourself looking glamorous in a pic, you will feel better about yourself. Some might whine “oh she only looks good on pics, not in real life”. Well at least I look good somewhere sometime, unlike the bitter fuckers who say this crap. 😆
  21. Watched a lot of movies, comedy TV shows, and the Handmaid’s Tale. The latter gives you hope regardless of how shitty your situation is. Comedy shows and laughing have healing effects.
  22. Did creative stuff. Photography, writing, dancing and painting. Creativity is important for your mental health, because you focus on something, calm your mind and reduce anxiety.
  23. Listened to music. Good music helps you feel better and calms you down regardless where you are and also blocks the sounds of annoying people.
  24. Slept A LOT. A good night sleep and an afternoon nap is important for your mental and physical health. Everyone’s different, but I usually need 7-9h of sleep. Power naps are also great, 30min in the afternoon will refreshen you quickly.
  25. Raged. Alone. Inside a car, in my apartment, in a forest. Yelling your emotions out loud without anyone around is an effective mood booster. Some people pour their anger at the wrong people like their spouses, colleagues, customer service people etc., (I have too), but I have now found out that raging alone without harming others is very effective. Try it! Yell and rage inside your car, go to a forest and YELL. See how much calmer you will be dealing with difficult people after that.
  26. Hugged and kissed my cats about 10-20 times per day. Cats have a very calming effect and if you don’t have a boyfriend to cuddle with, your cats will make sure you are loved to the moon and back. ❤️
  27. Read good books. I’m not a reader, I prefer movies, but occasionally I come across an interesting book that I can’t stop reading until it’s finished (e.g. Wuthering Heights). Just make sure you have a calm, peaceful place without distractions to focus on your book.
  28. Helped others. Volunteered for different charity causes, helped old relatives, and defended vulnerable people. Helping others without expecting anything back will give you purpose in life when you feel like your life has no meaning. If a shitty man, employer or a friend doesn’t appreciate you, don’t waste your empathy on these emotional vultures. Give your empathy to someone who will cherish it.
  29. Cut out toxic friends, ex-colleagues, ex-boyfriends and randoms. Your environment matters, so getting rid off all the assholes/ bullies is the first step for mental peace. If they won’t shut up/ leave you alone, write a fucking blog about it.😆
  30. Last but not least, be grateful. I know it is super hard when you have nothing and nobody wants to help you, but find something everyday. People have been telling me this for seven years and it is annoying AF to hear that from people who already have EVERYTHING. So I’ll write three things after each of my blog posts to inspire the ones who don’t have everything like me. Today I’m grateful for my cats, Internet and my dishwasher.

17. Sonia baked a “perfect” banana-walnut cake. Photo: Sonia Jain

Managing Your Finances Like a Lady

It’s a tough world out there for single women, especially single unemployed women. You have to maintain your appearance to attract potential partners and to look representable for job interviews. Work wear is expensive and today’s job market requires you to look your best. So how do I manage without a job and a boyfriend to pay my rent, bills, feed my cats, feed myself, buy clothes, make-up and do my hair?

When your future looks uncertain, it is very important to keep your budget intact and save some money for the future. The unfortunate part of being unemployed is that you have no idea when you will get your next job. It might take a month, six months or even SEVEN years like in my case. I hope it doesn’t get to eight, but I guess we will all find out on my blog this year. 🙂

Who will buy me shoes when you have no income or a boyfriend? Who will even look at me if I can’t afford to buy make-up and do my hair? Do I need to go live with my parents again? Rob a bank? You get stressed and anxious, but sometimes you have to do things that aren’t that awesome. No, I don’t mean you should do porn, but find quick ways to cut your fixed expenses first. Here are 30 things I have done in the past seven years of my unemployed single life to save a buck:

  1. Lived with my dad for two years.
  2. Lived with random (WEIRD AF) roommates I found online in four different apartments in NYC and Finland. Communists, hipsters, bullies and one fashion model who only had jam and beer in her side of the fridge…and several more!
  3. Lived in an apartment hotel with random roommates.
  4. Lived in an apartment in a building that was under construction work (cheaper rent) and I didn’t have a window for six months.
  5. Bought make-up from the sales section.
  6. Bought clothes from second hand stores.
  7. Met people in a library instead of a café.
  8. Haven’t taken a vacation/ traveled abroad in 2 YEARS.
  9. Used coupons to buy food.
  10. Asked help from the church.
  11. Talked to my cats instead of paying 120 euros/session (average price) for a therapist.
  12. Cycled 44km in one day just to save 13 euros in travel costs.
  13. Asked for a ride from neighbors/ friends to save a bus ride fair 2,80 euros.
  14. Cut down on alcohol and going to bars. I didn’t go to a single bar for 8 MONTHS.
  15. Gone on a date with a douchebag to get free food.
  16. Attended random events to get free food, such as a tech company’s training event for coders (I’m NOT a coder).
  17. Volunteered in random events to get free food.
  18. Complained about something to get a discount on food/ a cocktail. (Real reasons though, sick of paying from my pennies just to get shit)
  19. Taken sugar, salt and pepper home from restaurants.
  20. Fixed my old shoes instead of buying new ones.
  21. Cut and died my own hair. (After I got sick of vicious bullying hairdressers DELIBERATELY ruining my hair after I paid FULL price, SEVEN incidents in Finland!!)
  22. Stopped wearing nail polish.
  23. Left an empty bottle in a public toilet and after the event took the bottle for recycling to get 0,20e.
  24. Took my jewellery to the pawn shop to get money to buy one of my cats.
  25. Considered putting my rental apartment on Airbnb, but then realized it’s illegal (breach of contract). You could do this though if your contract allows it and stay with your relatives, friends for 1-2 months to save rent money and use that money to take a vacation!
  26. Learned how to change a light bulb/ clean pipes/ install washing machine instead of paying the maintenance guy to do it.
  27. Changed a gym membership to an fitness app and worked out from home/ outside (saved 40e per month).
  28. Learned how to cook at home instead of buying ready meals/ ordering from restaurants.
  29. Utilized free trials for pretty much everything available, such as LinkedIn, Adobe, a local newspaper etc. Just remember to CANCEL on time!!
  30. Actually have WORKED! Done different part-time, freelancer work 1-4 days a week (NOT every week though so I would actually have enough money to live), such as sold yoghurt in supermarkets, sold Oreo cookies in supermarkets, was a substitute teacher in an elementary school, sat in a church eight hour per day for two months waiting for tourists to stop by, and helped startups with social media marketing. Everything except work worth my MSc in International Business Management and prostitution. Yep, the rumors are UNTRUE. Surprise, surprise a-holes. 😝

This is all for today,  more money saving tricks coming up later! 

25. Sonia figured that her British Shorthair cat, London, will help her shitty lonely single life more than jewellery. (Bought her instead of getting a shelter cat because she didn’t have a car to drive 2h to a shelter AND pay the shelter fee 100€ for an adult cat, 150€ for a kitten. Abandoned cats can be aggressive too just in case you plan to have children whenever you stop being a single AF person.) Photo: Sonia Jain

I tried to collect some of the funniest things, but of course there’s nothing funny about my shitty situation. However, all the entrepreneurs I have met so far, have had similar money saving tricks. So I guess there’s still hope for me. 😃👍🏼